Weddings
Weddings are happy and joyous events, yet for many couples, saying "I do," to each other often means saying "I do," to debt. My daughter is planning her wedding, and she and her husband-to-be are already at the $20,000 mark, which my husband and I think is completely ridiculous. We can help them out some, but our assistance will barely make a dent with that kind of budget. What ever happened to keeping things simple?
Goodness, that's an extravegant wedding. Ours was around $2,000 all together which I thought was quite high.
Its depend on you if you want to make it simple or not. But i can said its a lots of money and you can spend to many way for that right? But its up to you. The money is your son money right? He have a right thing to use the money. Even i think $5000 or $10000 its more enough for that weeding. Maybe its waste, but as long as your son marriege really good and their happy, i don't think thats a big problem. We only married once in our life..I hope only once..Hehe :D
Jeremy, I like your wedding budget! Actually, our other daughter got married last January, and her wedding costs came in around that figure too. She had a simple, yet beautiful ceremony. The daughter who is getting married this time around just got back from Iraq this past fall, as did her fiance, so they have a pile of money saved up from their deployment. We want them to have a special day, but they put their lives on the line for this money, and we're afraid in the long run they'll regret this extravagence.
oh my god Jeremy 2000$....i have to say that was really great but i have to say that a friend of mine got married a couple of years ago and he spend around 10000$.there were about 200-250 people at the wedding but the thing is that in our country the average salary was around 120-150$ a month.So the thing is that nowadays if you spend 20000$ on a wedding you might get the line "just 20000$?".
JeanLorie if you can help your daughter help her....it`s going to be the greatest moment of her life and everyone deserves it to be perfect
We're trying to keep ours on the low end, while still having everything we want (within reason of course). We made priorites as to what we're willing to spend money on versus what we're not as concerned with.
It helps to avoid wedding specific services. Florists, dressmakers, photographers, etc really jack up the price as soon as they hear the word "wedding". Everyone deserves the perfect day, for sure. But there are ways to do it without being in debt for the rest of your life.
I highly recommend the book
Wonderful Weddings for Cost-Conscious Couples. It's written by the people who do the show For Better or For Worse on TLC and offers a lot of great, real advice.
I agree that $20,000 would be much for my way of thinking.
I suppose that in some family and social circles, certain things are expected. Hopefully if someone spends that much, the practical gifts and even gifts of money help offset the cost of the wedding.
That is a lot of money. But if they have saved a pretty large sum of money, that should help. Perhaps though, they could take a look at things that aren't really that important and try to cut back the cost that way?
I agree with the social circles statement. I know so many people whose families were huge to begin with, or whose parents wanted to invite this friend and that friend (often out of obligation). When many venues charge per plate it's easy to see how the cost can escalate very quickly.
Many people are of the thought that wedding is once in a life time event and it has to be grand. So people will spend endlessly even at the extent of getting themselves into debts to make it a memorable event.
It is the norms everywhere and I think the older generations are 100% in it. But the youngster nowadays seems to be less caring in this kind of thing. What is important to them is to get together and some don't even bother to wed. I think we have a shift in the mindset of people in this.
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